Our small group recently began a study by Bob Goff called Undistracted. We aren’t very far into the study yet, but from the very beginning, it has been clear that Bob Goff is delightful. He’s funny, quirky, and has an infectious joyfulness about him. He was so likable and relatable that I decided to check out one of his books at the library this week. The book is called Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People.
I’m about 30% into the book, and so far, it’s everything I knew a book by Bob Goff would be. He’s said several things that have struck a chord with me, but one thing in particular resonated the most. He said, “When joy is a habit, love is a reflex.” It’s not something I’ve ever thought of in that way before, and I really love the connection between joy and love.
The Bible encourages us to find joy in all circumstances, reminding us that joy is a gift from God. In Philippians 4:4, we are urged to “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.” This joy is not dependent on our circumstances but is rooted in our relationship with God. James 1:2-3 also teaches us to “count it all joy” when we face trials, knowing that these challenges help strengthen our faith and perseverance. Finding joy in all things allows us to experience God’s peace and presence, even in difficult times.
The Bible also emphasizes the importance of loving others as a fundamental aspect of Christian discipleship. Jesus commands us in John 13:34-35 to “love one another” as He has loved us, highlighting that our love for others is a testament to our faith. When I think back on my own life, I can absolutely see the connection between joyfulness and loving others. I especially like the idea that loving others could become a reflex. A reflex is an involuntary response or reaction, something that is so natural, it happens before we even think about it. When we are focused on rejoicing in the Lord, regardless of the situation, our involuntary, automatic response becomes to love people.
Bob Goff’s words have really stuck with me, especially the idea that “when joy is a habit, love is a reflex.” It’s such a simple yet profound way to look at how joy and love are intertwined. By making joy a regular part of our lives through our connection with God, loving others becomes second nature, even when things aren’t easy. This kind of love, born out of joy, helps us deal with life’s challenges and build stronger relationships. Embracing these ideas not only helps us grow personally but also lets us show God’s love more genuinely in our everyday lives.
I encourage you to reflect on your own life. How can you make joy a habit and love a reflex? Share your experiences in the comments below or take a moment to pray and ask God to help you cultivate these virtues.
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